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Monday, July 30, 2007
Please, let it be true...
This morning, he woke up with the good lower tones again. And I'm thinking, "Please, God, please let this be You healing him." It feels like we've had one delay after another on him getting the shot in his vocal cord to make him sound more like his old self, and I'm hoping that that is because the Lord wants to heal him first. He saw a new specialist at Chapel Hill literally the morning after we moved in here. That doctor was singing my tune that he didn't need the additional test that the dr. in DC had recommended, and he set up a time for David to get the shot on Aug. 6. That still seemed like really far away to us at the time, and I was impatient about another delay, but maybe it has a purpose. I'm hoping for that, anyway...
David and I are looking at this situation, and we are realizing that it has good humbling properties for us. When you're just off of a Supreme Court clerkship, the world is your oyster. There are many people out there lining up to throw ridiculous sums of money at you if you'll come to work for them. I don't say this to be prideful, but to explain why we may have needed this humbling experience. We don't want to be in danger of forgetting that it is the Lord that lifts up. We were very aware of that when David got the clerkship.
David is a very hard worker, and he did make great grades at UVA, but he wasn't the top student in his class, and there were plenty of other people that he knew just as deserving or more deserving of the honor than he was. We were in awe that the Lord had put David where He did. But after a year of being around a large group of the smartest young legal minds in the country, maybe we were beginning to feel more entitled. I don't know; maybe it was a danger for us. So, right before the clerkship ended, David got a difficult and embarrassing impediment handed to him that could potentially hamper his legal career in unforeseen ways. At the least, it made him feel less desirable and singled out as somehow less than the others. And I felt humbled with him. We are both very aware now of how quickly things can turn from great to precarious. We are humbled by our own weaknesses and by the fragility of all situations in this life.
Please pray for David. Pray for his healing, and please pray for wisdom for us. We don't want to get this shot prematurely if the Lord is healing him in other ways. Please pray that it would be clear what we need to do.
Sunday, July 29, 2007
The porch swing...
We went to our first church today. Sigh. Now begins the great church hunt. Again... We were spared that last year. We knew of a good, solid church in the area, so we went there immediately, and we didn't look around. It was nice not to have to do that. But this time around, there are a million good churches in our area. You can't throw a rock without hitting a church. They're everywhere. Though I admit, there aren't a lot of good churches with a rockin' contemporary service, so that limits us. We're going to miss that about Sovereign Grace of Fairfax. Sniff. I'll probably write about our feelings about churches and church hunting sometime, but I'm not feeling ready to write a nuanced post that manages to convey the struggle without offending anyone, so I will wait on that. =)
My timer's going off. Cake is ready! Big hugs to all of you.
Friday, July 27, 2007
Random rainy evening post...
Mom and Dad dropped by this afternoon because Mom had left her clothes hanging in our closet. They were going halfway to Raleigh to pick up something this afternoon, so they just came the rest of the way to pick up their things. I haven't lived within "dropping by" distance of my parents since I was first married, over 6 years ago. So, they got here, and I was sure glad they did.
I found a great sale on the porch swing, but David was nervous about trying to put it up, so he said my dad would have to do it sometime. Well, that time was today! I couldn't wait. I was like a little kid about this. So David put it together, and he and Dad hung it from the back porch rafters. It's perfect.
We all sat together on the back porch, and I got to swing to my heart's content. I came in to make dinner, and when I turned, I could see all my family out on the porch, with Mom on the swing with Seth. The water bubbled for the noodles, the smell of meatballs came from the oven, and I heard the voices of so many people that I love right outside. We ate on the porch with a light rain drumming on the roof.
I feel so blessed right now. I've wanted to come "home" for a good, long time now. God provided a way for us to do it, and I am so appreciative. But, Seth is crying in his swing instead of catnapping, so I must go. It's been a wonderful day, though. And I'll get up pictures of my swing soon, whether you care or not. =)
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
First days...
We left on Sunday afternoon at 3:00 p.m. from Arlington, after spending the night in our empty apartment on a borrowed air mattress. We went to church in the morning!, largely so that we could go with a friend who wanted to visit, and then we rushed outta town as quickly as we could. It wasn't that quick. It's amazing how much stuff we had to get out of the apartment before we could leave. But finally, we were on the road. Seth did great, for the most part.
The highlight of the adventure for him and us, though, was when he woke up and began to meltdown from too long in the car, right after I'd passed the last fast food exit for 30 miles. So, desperate, I pull off in Dinwiddie, VA, home of nothing but a sign for Good Home Cooking, 3 miles away. I pulled over, and David was game for trying it after he heard the crescendo of wailing. So I got back in the car, and here I am, winding along a country road, Seth screaming in the backseat, and I keep making turns and following old, faded signs, praying that this is place is a) coming up soon, and b) still open for business. We got there, after turning off on a country road that scared me for David in the UHaul. When we got to the parking lot, there was a sign that said, "Thanks for not giving up." =)
But it was a nice place to stop and rest. The little restaurant overlooked a lake, and there were a mother and daughter waitressing. We sat out on the porch and rocked Seth while we waited for dinner, and after dinner, the sons of the mother waitress came in from fishing on the lake to tell us all about what they'd caught. =)
We made it to Mom and Dad's about 11:00 p.m., completely bushed. Monday morning, we were up bright and early. David got my parent's neighbor, and they cleared out our storage unit, all before 9:30 a.m. Then I headed to Raleigh, straight to the rental office to pick up keys, and David took the truck to the house. We finished our fast food lunch on the stoop 5 minutes before our movers showed up.
We spent Tuesday and today unpacking boxes and getting things together. Mom and Dad came with us and were a HUGE help. Dad and David went out this morning and came back with a bunch of expensive, but necessary, yard equipment. They argued over the meaning of "necessary" in the store, and David managed to whittle down Dad's list. Dad is the King of All Yard Work, the Sultan of Lawn Maintenance, the Godfather of all Things Green. His lawnmower cost more than my first car, and he maintains 2 acres...pristinely. We, being smart people, figured out that if we got some of the stuff on Dad's list today, then he would do yard work for us all day. He did, and it looks great, but honestly, Daddy, I do like the wild, "English garden" look. I know; I must not be your daughter.
We unpacked the last box this evening! I know, I've been told we are lightning speed unpackers. I just can't stand looking at boxes and junk lying around. It's part of my OCD tendencies. My husband is also an incredibly hard worker, so that makes it all possible. We found at least temporary places for most of it. We'll rearrange more in the coming weeks, I know. And we have a lot of little projects that I'm looking forward to getting on. We haven't put up any pictures yet, and I'm thinking about curtains, and I desperately need some spice rack thingies, we have to change the dryer cord for our outlet or we can't use the dryer, and it appears that we have no bolts or screws for the crib we were given, so I'm going to contact the company about getting some of those, etc.,... so I think we're going to be pretty busy.
But I LOVE this little house. It is so perfect for us, and I feel blessed to be in it a little more each day. Our neighbors are very nice, and I've never really had "neighbors" before, in the cul-de-sac sense, so I'm looking forward to that new experience. At this point, David's home with me, and it still feels like an adventure. I'm looking forward to this month of settling in together. I love hearing the crickets outside, and I love all the green of our trees that I see out of the windows. We have eaten every night on a card table on our screened-in back porch while Albert has had the run of the back yard. Mom and Dad went home tonight after dinner, and we'll miss their help, but I think it's under control at the moment, anyway. Thanks for all your prayers for a smooth move. It's gone really well so far.
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
Friday, July 20, 2007
Goodbye from Arlington...
When we left Alabama, I was ready to go. I was pretty sure we were right to leave, even though I wasn't sure what was waiting for us up here. This time, I'm not ready to go. I haven't emotionally left Arlington yet. And I don't really want to leave. If David could get his dream job here, and we could afford a place big enough for a little family, I wouldn't go. But really, it's just that I don't want to say goodbye to the best year of my life. We visited Charlottesville, and prior to this year, I would've said that that time was the best year of my life. But, driving around town, looking at our first apartment, hanging out with my old co-workers, I realized, "That happy time completely pales in comparison to this." And I guess I'm afraid. I'm afraid that we will move, and things will get hard again. I'm afraid that I'll be lonely in the suburbs. I'm afraid that God will call us to another tough church and another tough time in life if we leave here. I feel like, as long as I stay here, I can hang on to happiness. What will happen if we leave? Will life still be sweet and peaceful somewhere else?
I don't know. But I have this verse to comfort me: "And Joshua set up at Gilgal the twelve stones they had taken out of the Jordan. He said to the Israelites, "In the future when your descendants ask their fathers, 'What do these stones mean?' tell them, 'Israel crossed the Jordan on dry ground.' For the LORD your God dried up the Jordan before you until you had crossed over. The LORD your God did to the Jordan just what he had done to the Red Sea when he dried it up before us until we had crossed over. He did this so that all the peoples of the earth might know that the hand of the LORD is powerful and so that you might always fear the LORD your God."
Years from now, Seth and I will look at the pictures we took this year in Arlington, and I will tell him of God's faithfulness to our little family. I will show him "stones" of remembrance of how God provided for us. We have truly crossed on dry ground. There are many piles of rocks that we have laid down all over the country, from NC, to Virginia, to Maryland, to Alabama, to Virginia, and they all tell the same story. The Lord is powerful, and He has been good to us. We will praise Him, and we will raise another pile in Raleigh, NC.
Wednesday, July 18, 2007
First bowl of oatmeal...
Monday, July 16, 2007
Why I will miss Pentagon City...
There is a large mall right across the street from my building. It starts with an outdoor court surrounded on all sides with shops and restaurants, and back behind that is a 3-story indoor shopping mall. I can walk to Harris Teeter in less than a block, and there is an Eckerds literally across the crosswalk from my building. On summer evenings, there are concerts in this courtyard, and the kids play in the grassy areas.
Friday, July 13, 2007
Specialist's appointment...
Here's where things got really hard for me. David's ENT doctor who referred us to this specialist had given us the wrong idea about what he would do for us at this visit. That ENT gave us the impression that this visit would more clearly diagnose the problem, which it did, but also that he would be able to do a test that would determine whether or not David's vocal cord function is likely to return on it's own. At the conclusion of these tests, she said, David could get a shot in the vocal cord to give him much more normal speech. That test could be scheduled for this following week, before we left D.C. This is what we were led to believe. She was wrong, and that was hard on us. We had waited a month for this appointment, for the hope of some improvement.
Instead, the specialist tested David with the strobe and recommended that he see another doctor for a second test to determine future vocal cord function. He couldn't do that test at this visit. In fact, he didn't do it at all, and only one doctor in this area actually does it. Of course, we couldn't see him next week. He's completely booked. So we waited a month, looking forward to David getting this shot and getting some of his voice back, all for nothing.
I don't think I realized how much I'd been looking forward to the possible return of David's voice until it was denied to me. I was very angry at first, and I felt really betrayed by the false information we received. I was angry that this long wait had given us nothing but more waiting and more tests. And I was then sad that this tough chapter is not over for us. I had really high hopes that we would leave DC with the problem at least partially solved and with less to worry about.
It is hard to trust God with this, and I think it's getting harder in some ways. David's ability to do his future job depends on his ability to speak above a whisper. In a way, I think I was clinging to him getting the shot as a lifeline. If we got it before we left DC, even if it was a few days before, and it didn't work for some reason, then we could cancel the movers, get out of our lease, and figure out what to do next without uprooting our life to move to Raleigh. We'd have some time to think. We wouldn't potentially leave here for nothing. We'd have an out, and even if it was by the skin of our teeth, we could stop this thing.
But as I have learned over and over, God doesn't deal that way with us. He wants us to hang EVERYTHING on Him, when doctors can't make promises, and when doctors can't do anything. Haven't I learned by now that doctors can't fix anything without the Lord? I don't like the lesson this time any more than I liked it last time. But it's what I have come face to face with, once again. So on July 22, this little family will be packing up our moving van and driving to Raleigh to start over. We're doing it, hanging everything on faith that the Lord has called us to this job and this place. He has provided a wonderful home for us. And He will make a way.
Thursday, July 12, 2007
The sweetest ache...
It's a beautiful morning in Arlington, VA. My house is clean and neat, and I'm sitting here with a nice cup of hot, gourmet cocoa and my breakfast muffins. Everything is calm and serene. Why, you ask? Because David took the Munchkin on their first big Father-Son Outing to the National Zoo. I fed him, and off they went. They'll be back around 2:00, and David is keeping that cell phone on all day. I'm a paranoid mama. This is their longest outing without me, and I had a hard time watching Seth roll away from me down the hall. But now, I'm fine, and I'm relishing some reading, blogging, painting my toenails, etc. time.
Above, I have a picture taken of Seth several months ago, on Easter Sunday. He fell asleep in my arms, and David snapped this while I rocked him, so content just to be his mama. But he's not that little tiny one that he was then, and sometimes my heart aches to look at these "old" pictures.
See, we hit a big milestone yesterday. It was one I'd been dreading almost since the day he was born. Whenever David would mention it, I would cover my ears and starting singing. But it was time. I couldn't avoid it any longer. Yesterday, we gave Seth his first solid food.
I'd waited as long as I could. I clung to my pediatrician's attitude that he didn't need anything but breast milk until he was 6 months old. My hungry eyes gleamed when I saw the American Academy of Pediatrics said the same thing. But the last couple of nights, he'd been waking up a couple of hours earlier to eat, and he seemed pretty hungry when I fed him. And so, the mama instinct that is slowly growing in me told me that you do what is best for your child, even if it's hard on you. (I'm still amazed at that instinct and how it helps make the early mornings and late nights and cranky children easier to bear somehow.)
But I still mixed up that innocent looking white goo like I was stirring up a big batch of arsenic. I put on his little bib with defeated resignation. And I was gleeful when he didn't much care for it. =) He ate a bit, then he didn't want it, and he was highly offended when he put his thumb in his mouth to suck, and he ended up swallowing the goo left in his mouth with it. We'll keep going, because once you start, you can't go back. Maybe in a few days, we'll try something he likes a little better, like some sort of yellow veggie. It has begun.
I never thought I'd be such a huge fan of breastfeeding when I got started. It was a hard battle for me at first, and I didn't think it'd ever be easy or fun, but now it is. (This is not meant to offend any of you that bottle feed.) I have loved that I've been able to provide everything that Seth needs, right from the amazing tap that God gave mamas. I've watched him grow and bloom and get so big, and it's all from the milk that God put in me to provide for him! How amazing! But that joy of being the sole provider also makes this kinda tough for me. He's growing up, and the dividing line between baby and kid for me was always right there, at starting to eat his first food with a spoon, his first food that comes from the big, wide world and not from the safe, warm confines of my protection. Breastfeeding is a big tether that ties Mommy and Baby together. I have embraced my golden chains.
This last week, knowing that this was coming, I have fully enjoyed waking up in the middle of the night to feed Seth. I slip out of my bed in the dark when he begins to cry for me. I pull him out of the tent, and we settle in on the couch. I stroke his soft hair in the darkness as he eats, and I cherish these moments. He falls asleep again in my arms as soon as he's done, and I kiss his baby forehead a couple of times and whisper a blessing as I put him back down in his bed. How much longer will I stroke your head in the wee hours, my little one? How many days are left before you sleep until morning? I don't know, but I do know that I will miss this time more than I ever thought I would.
So, please don't make fun of me too much. Please don't think this is all unnecessary drama. The "growing up" will get easier to bear, I hope. And I don't think every milestone will be this hard for me. But I learn all the time how the sweetest love and the sweetest ache mingle together when your name is Mommy.
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
"Customer service"...
David: I would like to cancel my credit card.
Cus. Service Rep. (completely horrified): Why?
David: We just don't want the card. We have one with our bank, and that's enough.
C.S.R.: Can you tell me why you prefer your other credit cards? We have many, many different credit card plans to meet your needs. Let me tell you about 5 of them...
David: I don't want to talk about why I like the other card better.
C.S.R.: Please, sir, I know that we can satisfy you. Let me transfer you to our department that harasses people who just want to cancel their credit card for 10 minutes before you hang up on them.
David: Please, just cancel my card. I don't want to talk about it anymore.
C.S.R.: At this point, my supervisor requires me to tell you that I will sacrifice my firstborn child to keep your business. I will also sing any song that you would like to hear, including, but not limited to, anything by Billy Ray Cyrus, and I will send you a check in the mail for $100 that you can cash. If you cash it, of course, you will then be signed up for another credit line with a higher rate of interest, but I hope this will entice you, sir. (note of desperation in voice.)
David (heart of stone): No, thank you.
C.S.R. (defeated): Thank you. You've been a very good customer. (Note: She actually said this. We never used the card after the initial deal. Not once. I didn't even activate the thing after it came in the mail.)
The saga continued today when David attempted to cancel our phone service. We knew where this was heading when they asked where we were moving. David said, "North Carolina." Immediately, he was transferred to someone in North Carolina. He was then told that X Company doesn't provide service in Raleigh, so he was transferred back to Virginia to cancel our current service. This led to us speculating on what would've happened if we'd answered this way:
C.S.R.: Where are you moving?
David (completely straight face): Zimbabwe
C.S.R.: Wonderful! We have just joined Zimbabababnasiuowejklsfidfliown Telecom in Zimbabwe as a strategic partner. I'm going to transfer you right now, and we'll have you set up in a jiff.
David: AGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!
C.S.R. in Zimbabwe: Oh, Mr. Bragoon, it is so good to welcome you to Zimbabababnasiuowejklsfidfliown Telecom! For joining, we will be giving you a big bunch of bananas as your welcome gift to our country!
David: (click)
Sunday, July 08, 2007
Baby tent training and other random thoughts...
The picture above shows the baby tent folded up, and that picture illustrates why we want to use this thing for a travel bed. See that small, round, cloth bag hanging on the smiling man's shoulder? That's the whole thing, folded up. He's smiling because he's got an 8 lb. bag on his shoulder instead of a 35 lb., unwieldy, difficult to fold up, Pack N' Play. We have a Pack N' Play. We've used it. But man, this thing is so much better! Vance and Terri introduced us to the Peapod baby tent, and we requested one as a baby gift when Seth was born. They used it when they went to Germany for the summer when Isaac was about Seth's age. Isaac slept in it all the time, for naps and at night, and as a result, they could put him down anywhere and everywhere, and they did. We quickly realized what a good deal this was as we watched them do it. Since it's so lightweight and compact, it's easy to just throw in the car for a trip to a friend's house. It's small, so it fits places that a pack n' play won't. It fits in small corners, on stairway landings, etc. And since it's enclosed mesh, when Baby wakes up, he's always in familiar surroundings, no matter where he is. And it's just as comfy as a mattress. Basically, the tent has a small air mattress that you pump up with the hand pump. Then the mattress zips into a separate compartment in the bottom of the tent. Voila, soft and comfortable digs for baby!
Friday, July 06, 2007
Happy 4th from D.C.!!!
Seth LOVED his first fireworks. I wasn't sure how he'd feel about it, so I brought some cottonballs for his ears, just in case. But he wasn't the least bit scared. (I credit the loud praise band at our church with getting him used to loud noises.) He stood on my lap and said, "Oooh. Oooh. Oooh. Ooooh." over and over again while waving his arms. I haven't heard him get that excited before. It was so fun to share his first 4th with him, well, his 2nd really, but his first when he could enjoy the fireworks.
We put this little boy through a lot on the 4th, and he just kept on going. He did great! We left our apt. with a bag packed full of food and water at 11:00 a.m. David worked out a way for us to drive into town, avoiding all the closed streets, and he dropped us off on Independence across from the Smithsonian Castle. We unloaded a bunch of stuff, and then he drove off to park at the Court in their garage for the day. We hiked across the Mall, went through the Natural History Museum, and ended up on the other side at Constitution and 10th for the 4th of the July Parade. David walked down several blocks from parking at the Court, and he met us there.